the "Yes" song
Yesterday, Alexa and I baked bread with her great grandmother. It was a wonderful time, and after Alexa napped for a long time.
When she woke, Alexa nursed, and I decided to sing her the "yes" song. Yes, Alexa is nursing. Yes, Alexa is lying next to mommy. Yes, Alexa is nursing. Yes, Alexa is wearing a striped shirt... and, so on.
I've tried to avoid using "No" with Alexa, and as often as possible have used the word "stop" (as in, "Please stop the action you are doing"). Unfortunately, as an almost-two, no has been used, and Alexa has been exercising her own "no" more often. My inspiration for the song, was to make "yes" as heard as "no", and to positively associate "yes" with actions Alexa loves.
Dressing today, there was still the imperious "no." Would you like to wear the flowered shirt or the pink shirt? "No. No." We'll see how it goes ;)
posted by La Uva @ 4:20 PM
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Ah. The older Raven gets, the more and more I hear myself saying no. I need to start singing the yes song. I'm really happy that she says no, though. It's empowering to state our preferences (even if it's for no shirt at all!) -m
I appreciate Alexa's no. It is her choice, and I understand her frustration when her choice is ignored. Although, sometimes her choice is trumped. I love when I remember to dialogue her choice, and why it could not be at that moment.
Thanks for the wonderful idea! I cringe whenever I say NO. I don't like to use it.
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